Succeeding or still seeking approval?

It’s ok to be driven and to want to succeed and yes there may have to be some sacrifices along the way as you strive to reach what is most important to you.

But let me ask you. What is most important?

Money, status, security… which is driving you?

You’re driven to work harder or longer than anyone else. Constantly trying to prove yourself

 Let’s be brutally honest though what is the true cost of your sacrifice?

Your children not seeing you from the moment they get up until the time they go to bed. An exhausted and emotionally challenged parent when they do see you. Even when you are home you’re so wired from your day you struggle to relax and be present.

You hold people to the most impossible standards that you hold yourself to.  Long hours, near impossible deadlines and unachievable expectations.

The win is the thing that keeps you and them going.

That short lived rush of adrenaline and worthiness before you crash back down again, still seeking, still trying to prove you are worthy, lovable and/or safe.

How long can you go on like this? How long will your health prop you up as you drive your body and mind into the depths?

Will you ever be able to find true worthiness in your own self without continuously seeking the approval of others?

Please take a moment to breathe to recognise your driving force. I’m not saying stop everything you do, throw away all your hard work, but maybe, just take a moment to pause, to breathe and to recognise that the work doesn’t solve the emotional or worthiness issues.

Are you really succeeding or are just using your work to distract you from the feelings you’re not ready to face?

I see you and you’re worthy, you’re safe and you are enough. I hope you know that soon